Monday, June 6, 2011

Four Years Ago!

It's hard to believe that it has been four years since we saw Jaclyn's sweet face for the very first time. We knew the referrals were on the way because we heard that the China Center for Adoption Affairs had mailed them out and we were to be included in this batch! After waiting 19 long months, today was the day we would finally find out who this little girl is that would change our lives forever!
I was nervously waiting that day for our agency to call with the exciting news!  But, already having four biological children and experiencing their births, I wasn't quite sure exactly how I would feel. Although, I can truthfully say my feelings and emotions were no different! I use to joke, it would have been far easier to give birth, than to do all of the paperwork, home studies, more paper work, more home studies, the 19 months of waiting and even more paperwork!!!
The very first photo we saw of Jaclyn!

When the call came that morning, we found out we had a daughter and her name was Kong Ci Song. She was almost 2 years old and was living in a foster home in the Guizhou Province. I also learned that she was abandoned when she was about 1 year old. Unless babies are found with a birth note, their birthday is an estimate and typically, the doctor will assign one. The doctor determined her to be approximately 1 year old and made her finding day, her 1 year birthday!

A few days later, I sent a care package to her orphanage. I included some toys, photo album and a disposable camera. I was really hoping that by sending a camera I could catch a glimpse of her life before. Here are some photos that her foster mom took for us.  
I am so thankful God put adoption on my heart. Jaclyn has changed our lives and I truly believe she was always meant to be a part of our family. I know adoption is not for everyone and it's not my intent to make anyone feel they should adopt. 
I sure wish I had those red shoes!
Jaclyn today!

It's hard to imagine from our middle class perspective ever having to make that decision to abandon a child! In China, because of the One Child Policy, parents have no choice!

The One Child Policy-
 The One Child Policy came about in the 1950s, when Mao Tse-Tung urged his people to have lots of children to strengthen the country. The population growth from this edict led the government in the 1970's to be worried that China would be unable to feed their citizens. So, in 1979 the Chinese government implemented the One Child Policy. The goal of this policy was to keep China's population below 1.3 billion by the year 2000. Today, China is home to over 1.2 billion people. Couples who violate the One Child Policy are subject to fines (equal to three years salary), community ostracism and even jail time.
Baby boys are more valued in Chinese society than are baby girls because boys carry on the ancestral name, inheritance laws pass property on to sons, and sons are responsible for taking care of aged parents. Because of this, many couples will abandon a baby girl, which amounts to thousands of baby girls abandoned every year!
The babies are abandoned in public places (such as busy streets, railway stations and in front of public buildings) so they will be found quickly. The babies are abandoned as infants,  usually when they are only a few days old. In addition to little girls, special needs babies (both boys and girls) are also abandoned because most parents in China do not have the money to provide for their needs. Once found, the babies are given a medical exam and then taken to orphanages.

143 million orphans around the world are waiting!



NanaDiana said...

She is just beautiful, Janet. Several of our friends have adopted from China. Our youngest daughter did missions work over there and went into the orphanages. It was heart-breaking for her and life-altering.

God bless you..and others like you..God has His hand on your life- xo Diana

Crystal said...

How wonderful!!! I've always wanted to bring lots of children into our family!! Unfortunately, countries won't just give orphans to regular families. I'm so thankful she made her way into your family....what a blessing!

bj said...

Oh, Janet...she is just beautiful and I can just feel how much you love her.
I wish we had adopted one just like her when we were young enuf. Both you and she are blessed. :)

Kim K. said...

Your daughter is just beautiful and her pictures are precious. Adoption is a life-changing experience. We have been blessed a thousand times more than I could have ever imagined because of it.

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